Keep in touch with friends. It is important to spend time with other people.
At times we all face difficulties can feel isolated and may need some help and support. Try not to be afraid to ask for it. It can help to share your feelings with someone you trust. Some people find it easier to call a helpline - that is why we have them!
Because life doesn’t come with instructions, the NHS in Sheffield have teamed up with Exposed magazine to put real life problems to the health professionals, readers of the magazine who have been through them before and Exposed writers.

I was so looking forward to having my first baby and everyone says he is gorgeous but I can’t stand being left alone with him because of the way I feel. Sometimes I wish I’d never had him and think it would be best if he died of a cot death, but I know I would never hurt him because I am also worried that he might die and I watch him constantly. My brain feels that it might burst with all my thoughts that go round and round and I wonder if I’m going mad. I daren’t tell anyone how I feel because I am terrified that Social Services will take my baby away if they know what I am thinking. I see other mothers coping and enjoying their babies, but for me every day is a struggle. I just want it all to end and I have thought about just leaving, but my partner and parents have been so supportive and it just wouldn’t be fair on them. Will I ever be a good mother?
Read the responses from a reader, Exposed's owner and a local health professional